As I learn to love myself more, I am able to love others more.
As a young woman I absorbed the belief I had heard repeatedly about “the harsh
realities of life.”
Since I began doing The Work, I’ve been steadily
unwinding the thoughts that support that belief. Confusion is replaced with
clarity and kindness as The Work grounds me with a trustworthy tool to
consistently identify and question stressful thoughts. And I notice when I
facilitate clients, there are no new stressful thoughts.
I was naturally happy and carefree as a child, yet the early 70s were turbulent
years as I sometimes sought truth through a fog of drugs. Then I
lived for twenty years in a spiritual community which supported me with some
healthy boundaries until, with my husband and children, we were ready to be on
My world bottomed out in 2008 when my then sixteen-year-old daughter was
diagnosed with depression while away at boarding school. I was terrified and
felt deep guilt, shame and helplessness. I did the best I could and then The Work
came to me early in 2009 through the book A Thousand Names for Joy
which led me to one of Katie's seminars. As I learned to inquire, I began to live more fearlessly and trust that I could
consistently find the answers I needed through inquiry. My life began to change
rather miraculously because I got out of other
people’s business and concentrated on finding out what my business is (a basic
premise of The Work). All my relationships improved, most notably the one with
my precious daughter--I got very clear that all I really care about is having
the privilege to love her. Period. I am continuously discovering a new way to live, and that old
pervasive fear and confusion is being steadily replaced with love and compassion for myself
and others. I am learning a way to live without believing
the mind's judgments--trusting that even though I can’t
always feel it, there is an underlying existence that is pure kindness.
“There is a field out there beyond right-doing and wrong-doing. I will meet you
That field is love, and The Work has given me more courage to trust
that my true nature is love and so is everyone else’s! As I learn to love myself
more, I am able to love others more. And that doesn't mean that I condone unkind
behavior--I just know that's not who we really are.
Some major areas of life that I have worked on include anger, impatience,
creativity, spirituality, relationships, family, aging, and addictions including
alcohol, food, pleasure and pain.
I experience The Work of Byron Katie to be the creation of a field of
unconditional love in which transformation can occur.
I would love to do The Work with you if you feel drawn to me. The Work is my
passion and I would be honored to support you in identifying your stressful
thoughts and beliefs (recurring thoughts) to take to inquiry, guiding you through
four questions and turnarounds, while holding the space
for your answers to arise from within you. The Work can be intense and cathartic
(as well as joyful and liberating!) and I
simply hold you in your process and bring you back when you stray.
I have come to see that reality is kind—it is the substratum of this dream of life.
And I notice that what were once challenging situations become opportunities for
awareness. What were once problems become signposts to show me where my Work is.
I honor your courage in taking the inner journey through the labyrinth of the
unquestioned mind to discover existence beyond identification with thought. As
Katie puts it:
“A questioned mind drops into its sweet home in the heart”.
Welcome to The Work!
"If you want to see the love of your life, look in the mirror."